Because I’m Happy

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A couple of weeks ago I was fortunate enough to be able to attend an Esther Hicks/Abraham event in a city near where I live. I say fortunate not only because I love going but because it always blows my mind that she comes to a city so close by and it couldn’t be any easier to attend. No trains, no planes, no overnights in an unfamiliar bed. Crazy easy. I’ve probably been to see her 8 times over the years.

[Sidebar: I was going to add in a whole bunch of info here about Esther/Abraham and their teachings on the Law of Attraction, but just to keep things simple… Esther is a lovely woman who is able to channel a group of non-physical entities that (for the sake of our simple minds) calls itself Abraham. If you’re interested in learning more check out YouTube and/or I will assume if you continue reading that you have an open mind to this kind of stuff. If you don’t, no worries, I won’t bother to try to convince you.]

I always come away having heard something I needed to hear. I always go with questions planned that I’d like to ask. I always raise my hand but I’ve never been chosen, even though I try to sit in a strategic spot where I’m sure “they’ll” notice me. But inevitably (and Abraham says this will be the case), someone will ask a question that will result in an answer I am seeking. Without fail.

Such was the case this last time, but I also came away with another nugget that is what I really wanted to share. For me, it was definitely a blinding flash of the obvious (BFO)…

Abraham said that everything we desire while we are here on this earth is desired for one reason and one reason only: because we want to be happy. We want to feel good. We want to feel better than we currently do. Think about that… every choice you make, every wish you have, every decision you ponder, every drug you take, every cookie you eat is only because you want to be or feel happier or better than you currently do. I feel like that alone is mind blowing in it’s simple truth. Like, no shit! Totally can’t argue with that. Try checking in with yourself on a random basis and think about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it and I’ll bet the answer is: to feel/be better in some fashion or another.

So if you take that one step further, we are often putting off actually feeling that happy feeling until that thing we are pursuing comes to fruition. How often have you heard someone (or yourself) say “once I have _______________ then things will REALLY be great.” Right? We’re always pursuing things with the idea that once they have arrived in our experience then and only then true bliss will magically descend upon us. And so the question Abraham asked was “then why not just skip ahead to the part where you’re already feeling happy, since that’s what you’re really after anyway?” Wow. Yeah. Excellent point, Abe! [Note the key point: based on the Law of Attraction, having what you desire is a byproduct of feeling happy and NOT the other way around.] So why not cut out a whole lot of angst and anxiety and bullshit and make a conscious decision to start feeling happy and enjoying your life right now (to the best of your ability – not asking you to go from zero to sixty in two seconds people).

There’s a whole lot more that can be unpacked from that (and that’s a whole other blog post) and there are tons of Esther/Abraham videos on YouTube, and books on if you want to get a deeper understanding (yeah, I suggest you do). It did take me a while at first to really begin to grasp their teachings but once I did it was like I was being reminded of things that I already knew.

So I hope my BFO was also your BFO. If not today then maybe some day.


What If?…


Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about something that you really desire? Asking yourself “what if” you had a new job, a new car, a new partner, a new lifestyle? Can you remember the feelings that you were having during those exquisite moments when you let your thoughts run free and began to envision something new and different? Didn’t you feel it in your body? A visceral feeling… a deep-down, instinctual excitement at the possibilities of what the future could bring. That, my friend, is the power of a “what if” question.

If you have a moment right now, stop what you’re doing and think of something you’ve been longing for — something that you haven’t even allowed yourself to consider having — and ask yourself “What if I could easily __________________?” (fill in the blank). And then spend a minute or so daydreaming about how that would feel and what it would look like.

The thing is, when you ask a “what if?” question, out loud or silently, it’s really all about the moments after you ask the question. When you ask a “what if” question that is important to you there’s a slight pause after you ask the question as your neurotransmitters are lining up the energy that is coming through your body. During that pause you are recalibrating your own energy. That’s the moment when your energy is actually starting to match your power. This is the excitement you feel as you are envisioning the possibilities. Literally the energy inside your body is matching up to the energy of your potential. It’s you lining up your vision of yourself with the vision that the Universe has for you. And the real magic is happening through this alignment. Yikes!

A while ago I began to ask myself “what if I easily communicate between worlds?”— meaning our physical world and the world of spirit. I literally felt giddy at the thought, it was so exciting. And I allowed myself to daydream about what that might might look like in a tangible way, in my life. I did this on a fairly regular basis. And I am here to tell you that I have begun to see a change in my clairsentient abilities and I have gone from being hopeful but tentative/doubtful to being able to connect much more readily and easily. My channeling is no longer only typewritten but also comes through verbally. I am much more confident and capable as a result.

So what I am telling you is that you can have an impact on your life and your circumstances simply by asking yourself “what if” questions. And then paying attention to the alignment you feel as your energy shifts. It’s exciting, right?!? And it’s so freakin’ simple! I believe that if you practice this regularly you will begin to see your circumstances change for the better. I hope if you do you will share them with me. I’d love to see how your dreams come to life!

Connecting the Dots


Last fall I had a pretty profound series of small events that taught me the key to following your intuition. I came to realize that if we all were to choose, at any given moment, the thing that makes us go “Wow!” or “Yay!” or “Awesome!” then we are allowing ourselves to follow our intuition. It’s. That. Simple. Yet it’s so easy NOT to do it. So, first, let me ’splain…

My son Denis is a mental health counselor and lives in San Francisco (I live in Connecticut). He and I are big fans of Jack Kornfield. Jack is a Buddhist teacher and author. (If you have never read any of his books I highly recommend you do.) Jack has a meditation center just outside of S.F. called Spirit Rock and apparently I somehow got myself on their mailing list. One day I received an e-newsletter from Spirit Rock and I notice they are having a class on Buddhist Psychology the following Saturday. I thought “OH, WOW, I bet that class would be perfect for Denis.” In my excitement I emailed him the info and told him I definitely thought he should go. I felt so strongly about it that if money was an issue I would gladly pay for it. He did decide to go (and got to meet Jack and shake his hand and have a brief conversation!!! woot-woot!)

Unbeknownst to me he went to the gift shop afterward and bought me a thank you gift — a DVD recording of one of Jack’s lectures on creativity. A few days later the DVD arrives, I opened it and immediately thought “COOL! I want to listen to this right away” and I popped it in my computer and started to listen while I worked.

During the course of the lecture, Jack happens to mention Planetree hospitals and talks about what a wonderful experience it is to stay in a Planetree hospital. I literally stopped in my tracks and thought “HUH! I need to know more about that so if I ever get sick I can find myself a Planetree hospital.” I had never even heard of Planetree but their mission to help people heal through patient-centered care and creation of a healing environment spoke to my little reiki-master heart. I quickly Googled Planetree and realized “HOLY SHIT! they’re located about 15 minutes from me!”. How weird is that?! For some reason, my next thought was “HEY!, maybe they use outside resources for graphic design. HOW COOL would it be to have a client whose mission is so closely aligned with my belief system!” So I found the person on their website who was the most obvious contact and I reached out to her via email. I gave a very brief explanation of why I was reaching out and asked if they ever used outside graphic design resources. I clicked “Send” and in about 30 seconds I had a response back asking me to come in and meet. WAIT, WHAT??!! I can tell you that in my 17 years of self employment, that almost never happens. But “YAY!!!” And so I did, and we met and guess what… they are now a client of mine.

If you’ve read this far, thanks… I realize that was kind of long-winded! But I wanted you to see how the dots were connected through the different points in the story where I chose to do the thing that made me intrigued or happy or excited. (Bold words = dots.) That, in a nutshell, was me following my intuition. No, seriously. It’s really that freakin’ simple. Each time I did the thing that excited or intrigued me, another awesome thing happened. Literally, your intuition shows up as the excited feeling and sounds like the happy little voice inside your head. It loves life and wants to help you to follow your true path.

The moral of the story is, allow your intuition to sit in the front seat and drive the car, and ask your logical/rational mind to hop in the back seat and take a chill. Now, logical/rational doesn’t like to be a back seat driver. In fact, mine usually has a white knuckle grip on the steering wheel. So we have to practice escorting it into the back seat by paying close attention to those excited feelings and Aha! moments when they arise.

Today I encourage you to pay attention to the things that make you go Wow!, Hey!, Cool!, Awesome!… especially in regard to making choices. Doesn’t have to be a big thing… maybe whether to have that leftover spaghetti for lunch or a PB&J sandwich. (Often a dilemma of mine). Practice with small things. And then once you learn to do it in small ways it’ll be easier to do it for the more important things. I promise.